The War in Iraq - enough already!

I was against it from the get-go, but who am I? Just an ordinary citizen, full of outrage and sadness, standing on some street corner holding a candle.
And the rhetoric goes on and on. To pullout, they say, is to surrender - it means defeat. But how would we know? What does “victory” look like? They went into this war with some misty vision of “freedom and democracy”, routing an evil dictator harboring terrorists and poised to destroy us with WMD’s.
That bill of goods we were sold - and that some actually bought - was all false. Voices raised objections, suggested that this bellicose attitude was not in keeping with what we understood the USA could be, that these acts of war would stir up more hatred of this country and foment more terrorism, not less; would make us not safer or secure but more vulnerable.
There was no real vision, no realistic idea of what Iraq (or Afghanistan) would be after we smashed it all to pieces. No plan for restoring the infrastructure, for helping the new government meet the basic needs for people in Iraq and Afghanistan; or a way to promote a safe, civil society that fosters democracy, education, openness. And we know - without a vision, the people perish.
So now what? We could stay the course (a phrase they don’t use anymore, but whatever they say now means the same thing) - and one commentator suggests we must, and we have to be patient. It could take 12 years to set things right.
Can you imagine - 12 years of this? Billions of dollars every year. Thousands and thousands of deaths (“ours” and “theirs”), even more maimed; civil dislocation and disruption. And what I don’t hear in this argument about budget line-items for war is anything related to the cost here at home.
If we spend billions on the war (“supporting the troops” or supporting the military-industrial complex), the cost must be measured not only in dollars but in the very real human costs as well: the decline of social welfare… families disrupted, lives damaged, lack of funding for needed social programs that keep our society safe, healthy, educated, housed and working [or could, if we ever got our priorities straight in this country].
The future of this country - of our civil, democratic society - is at risk. Does anybody in a position to do anything about it care?